New Delhi: When a couple decides to enter into a relationship for longer period of time or even for a lifetime, then possibilities of frequent meetings will open up and these dates will prove to be very important for the couples who want to be together forever. Date does not only mean seeing each other or to have some romantic words over the hours.
This is the preparation period for future companionship and for taking time to understand each other as well. Valuing each other and respecting each other both play very crucial role for a couple who have just entered in a relationship. So couples need to be little more patient with each other so that a wonderful and passionate experience may come from dating.
Patience, practice, and efforts all together will be able to make dating healthier and safer for every couple. It is not easy to have successful dates initially, it take time to understand each other and getting accustomed with each other. Dates might be successful might be not but still it is important to put some positive efforts from both the ends. Female partners should always take care of their safety issues during their dates with the male counterparts. Memorable experiences may come from dating as you get to know each other better over time. If there is any kind of complexity then that can also be sorted out.
You need to be little careful about few things:
Concentrate on shared principles rather than shared traumas
Shared trauma doesn't mean that two people are going to get along, and a first date isn't a therapy class. Be cautious about opening up about trauma in the beginning because it might lead to a false sense of intimacy with a date.
How you present yourself
Being popular or filling a void are not the objectives of dating. Your dating objectives should be more focused on how you present yourself than on the results. Be proactive, exhibit curiosity, and listen to gauge compatibility.
Be truthful to yourself
Pay special attention when you use conflicting language or demonstrate contradictory conduct. Alignment can indicate that we aren’t being authentically ourselves. Don’t try to hide your caution signs and contradictions.
Emotions are not facts
Anxiety can refer to feelings of anticipation, apprehension, or uncertainty. Look at it with curiosity rather than passing judgment on its source as “good” or “poor”. Before acting on our emotions, we occasionally require more information.
Link up with yourself
Find out what keeps you grounded in who you are during the dating process. This can take the form of doing deep breathing techniques, writing down our feelings before or after dates, or engaging in any other activities that might calm our nervous systems.
Resist the urge to make a decision
You don’t have to stick with your type just because you've always had one. Even though we may be drawn to and intrigued by emotionally unavailable companions, we may decide against going after them. Recognize the kind of people who bring out your best qualities.
Avoid having irrational expectations
Don’t try to force people into positions you don't want them in. Avoid placing unrealistic or unattainable demands on a date that they might not be able to meet at the beginning of the relationship.